The other night after I put my almost two-year-old to bed, I heard her sing the words to a song that my husband and I have sang to her almost every night since she was born. It goes like this:
I am a child of God,
and He has sent me here.
Has given me an earthly home,
with parents kind and dear.
Lead me, guide me, walk beside me,
help me find the way.
Teach me all that I must do,
to live with Him someday.
Though unintelligible to most (gotta love that two-year-old jibberish), I knew exactly what she was saying. It brought tears to my eyes and a lump in my throat. Beaming with pride, the spirit told me that the first line of that song is the most important thing she’ll ever learn in this life – “I am a Child of God.” Her little two-year-old soul knows it and believes it with great fervor! So what is it about mortality that makes us sometimes forget who we are? Why do we tend to place our worth upon materialistic or vain things, instead of living like children of God? And most importantly – how can I raise my girls to always know of their own infinite worth?
I’ve thought and prayed and stressed about why we tend to forget our infinite worth so easily. Then it hit me. Distraction.
“The more distractions that surround us, the easier it is to treat casually, then ignore, and then forget our connection with God.” –Donald L. Halstrom
We usually assume distractions are bad things like pornography or drug addiction, but distractions come in all shapes and sizes. The busy soccer mom, the workaholic, the college student cramming for finals, cellphones, Netflix, and my current distraction: a newborn, a two-year-old, and a sometimes-obsessive need to have a clean house and a “perfect” body. Don’t get me wrong, these can all be great things! But if having the latest designer jeans is becoming more important than our relationship with God, then we might have a problem.
One very big distraction is our quest for self worth. Have you ever felt that in order to have worth, you need to find it externally? That may be through the praise of others, followers on Instagram, or how quickly we can get our “pre-pregnancy bodies” back. But none of that is important! What’s truly important is God’s love for us, and how we choose to show our love for him in return. One of the ways we can do that is by remembering Him, and by remembering Him, we are remembering our infinite worth.
I was always taught that the word remember is one of the very most important words in the scriptures, being used over 300 times. Whenever I would leave my house as a child, my mom would say “Remember who you are!” I’d smile and think, “What a weirdo” but she was SO right. Remembering who we are is everything. If I’m ever feeling particularly down on myself, I try and see myself through God’s eyes. And if there’s one thing I know, it’s that God loves me. I love this quote by Thomas S. Monson because it reminds me that my worth is infinite because of God’s love.
“Heavenly Father loves you—each of you. That love never changes. It is not influenced by your appearance, by your possessions, or by the amount of money you have in your bank account. It is not changed by your talents and abilities. It is simply there. It is there for you when you are sad or happy, discouraged or hopeful. God’s love is there for you whether or not you feel you deserve love. It is simply always there.”
We are children of God! We are literal sons and daughters of a Heavenly being who loves us and cares for us deeply. If everyone knew that and had it in the forefront of their minds, I think our world might look a little differently. We’d see each other as brothers and sisters. We’d love more freely and have more compassion for one another. We wouldn’t judge someone based on their appearance or social status. Rather, we’d look on the inside to define worth. And the great thing about that is that on the inside, at our very core, we are all the same. We are children of God with infinite worth.